Unresolved Issues

Hello and welcome,

First and foremost, understand that I am not here to discriminate, belittle or criticise any responsible adult (parent, guardian, carer and all the alike) for only knowing what they know about parenting, with the knowledge they have at the time whilst raising their child or children, trying to live their life also. That would contradict my ‘personal sovereignty’ speech, besides; it’s not my intention nor is it my perspective. I am here to raise awareness and understandings that parenting is a constant and continuous practice where thinking outside the box will give more meaning to a child or children, than maternal/paternal instincts alone. There is much more to parenting a child or children as most would believe.

I have so much to discuss and share about parenting, raising a child or children, child development and behaviour and child empowerment, ever since I found the root cause of my crisis. All I wanted to do is to heal my emotional wounds and move on silently; instead, I became a writer/author. Not only have I discovered the root cause of my crisis, but I have possibly come to identify the root cause of violence, harassment, negligence, racism, anger, stealing, arrogance, ignorance, discrimination, bullying, abuse (mistreatment), insecurities (especially confidence). And the flip side to the mentioned are: self-inflicting habits, submissive behaviours, detached or aloof characteristics, afraid/fearful, introvert, defensive, complicated, phobia (fear of being judged), etc, potentially, the crisis that OUR world is experiencing and I’m hesitant to say but it starts from parenting.

Has anyone asked themselves, how on earth does a baby grow to learn such behaviours when parents are their primary role model? Whatever you may know, understand that babies have been developing in their mother’s womb for the past nine months and virtually, everything the mother does the baby feels and that’s just brushing the surface. In addition, babies have been listening to their mother’s heartbeat ever since; this alone is evidence that babies have started learning.

This is why I would like to discuss yet another important topic that lingers in most adults today, that has long been with them since childhood. Depending on the level of severity and/or exposure, these unresolved issues that most people carry are inner emotional conflicts that children, teenagers, adults and seniors struggle to stabilise. This could be: self sabotaging behaviours, escapism/avoidant habits, emotional eating/compulsive work disorders, substance related uses and rebellious or despotic behaviours. All of which are signs of chronic emotional stress that cause dysfunctional behaviour habits. These are psychological and emotional wounds, the unresolved issues.

Has anyone asked themselves why some people eat when they’re upset? (Emotional eating) or why some people work excessively? (Compulsive work disorder) or why some people resort to substance/s? (Substance related users) or play video games for prolonged hours? (Escapism/avoidant habits) are some examples. As with everything, there is a root cause. I’m going to end this article with an example for you all to think about.

Parent A decides to smack their child softly on their bottom because the parent believes their child is being disobedient (a parents perspective, not a child’s perspective). Parent B criticises their child for creating a mess in the playroom (once again, a parent’s perspective, not a child’s perspective). Both parents mean well for their children, but don’t realise the ramifications of their actions. Parents A and B may not realise what they’ve just taught their child. Here is where the story gets interesting; the two children meet at the school play ground during lunch. The child of parent A fails an attempt on the monkey bars and the child of parent B criticises the child of parent A. Guess what happens next?

My kindest regards to you all,

 

Ersen

Sibling rivalry

Hello to you all,

Happy New Year, I hope you’ve had a wonderful time which was festive and joyous, celebrating the end of 2024 and the start of 2025.

I chose sibling rivalry (rivalry in general) as my January article simply because it’s an ongoing issue that most responsible adults (parents, guardians, carers and the alike) face during the course of their parenting life. No matter which parenting style or method a responsible adult may apply, sibling rivalry occurs for many reasons and in more ways than one event. Regardless of a child’s age (through to adulthood), there are internal and external contributing factors that potentially taint a child which cause rivalry, unless a course correction is applied to reduce the level of severity. You’d be surprised what the root cause is, just as I discovered during my time of healing.

From myths, legends, biblical stories and today’s modern day life across the world, rivalry (inc. sibling rivalry) continues and will continue when left untreated. I cannot state rivalry will ever cease to stop, but I can guarantee that sibling rivalry can be reduced, significantly, along with other personal insecurities e.g. jealousy, cutthroat competitiveness and bickering. Sibling rivalry cause a child or children to develop either aggressive or passive behaviours, but what if there was an option where a child or children understood the practicalities of rivalry rather than being made personal? Luckily, there is a third option.

Kindly understand that responsible adults, along with their parenting style, play a pivotal role in just about everything a child grows up to be, especially how responsible adults approach a child or children in any given situation. Most responsible adults are unintentionally unaware and may not understand the ramifications when implementing rules, restrictions, comparisons, etc, on their child or children, because a child or children have little (but growing) comprehension about the motives or intentions behind a responsible adults actions. It is simply impractical, and I’m sorry to say that responsible adults are making (almost) everything personal when parenting. Remember that a child or children learn from their responsible adult or adults whether out in public, family gatherings or the privacy of their home.

What causes sibling rivalry? Quite frankly, there are many events that could occur in one’s family life which contribute to sibling rivalry. Primarily, it’s parents who conceive with a second child as the attention innocently shifts from one child to the next. As for an only child in the family, rivalry often occurs when the child is being compared to their cousins, other children, etc.

Let’s run through a few examples:

  • A shift in attention during the course of a newborn, i.e. the firstborn had all the attention, now the newborn has most of the attention.
  • Responsible adults, who compare their child to their sibling or compare their children to other children, etc, this causes tension. For an only child in the family, being compared to their cousins, friends or other children, etc, e.g. why can’t you behave like (name)? or be more like your brother/sister/cousin/friend/person? Or why didn’t you eat your food like your brother/sister/cousin/friend/person? There are many more formats.
  • How responsible adults interact with other members of the household, e.g. adult to adult interaction, adult to child interaction. This includes how a responsible adult might interrupt or intervene during a child to child interaction, i.e. children tend to copy adults then mirror learnt behaviours toward others.
  • A responsible adults behaviour when watching a, e.g. sports match on TV expressing inappropriate comments toward a player or game play during the game or is playing an electronic (pc, mobile, console, video) game using ill manners, etc, that captures a child’s attention.
  • And external influences may include: the behaviour of a favourite soap opera/movie star/sports star/game character/superstar singer or something they heard over the radio whilst with a responsible adult, whom they consider a close friend, etc.

Due to the shift in attention, responsible adults could innocently neglect the cues from the first born who’s seeking attention or it’s frowned upon going undetected, and the child could certainly feel abandoned thus leading to further problems. I also understand parents love their child/children, therefore I simply ask not to bypass on the simplest cues that a child seeks when they crave for attention. It’s simply a matter of answering and asking questions that reassures the child that all is well.

My kindest regards,

 

Ersen

The health benefits when you discipline your child/ren without punishment?

Hello and welcome to my December article. Now that this year is ending and a new year is dawning, I’m going to share snippets of my research about child development and behaviour. Continuing to heal my inner pain, what I present is out of my goodwill and generosity to benefit humankind. Do understand that my children’s book contains helpful information for responsible adults to further assist with their parenting skill.

Firstly, I’d like to set my intentions with a prayer: Peace to the world, Accepting our differences and Gratitude for what we receive and/or give.

Secondly, no matter the race, religion, colour or creed, becoming or being a responsible adult (parent, guardian, carer and all the alike) raising a child or children is UNIVERSAL. Through studies, extensive research and firsthand experience, I have discovered that maternal/paternal instincts alone are not enough to nurture a child’s mental and emotional wellbeing; they’re only enough to nurture a child’s physical needs.

Thirdly, I have come to discover the root cause of hostility, maltreatment, aggression, bullying, emotional outburst, melodrama, conflict, arrogance, negligence, abandonment, irresponsibility, querulous, controlling, rude, etc. The above mentioned and more, lingers from childhood through to adulthood, and the level of severity will rise when left untreated (depending on length and regularity of exposure) and other contributing factors like; what life has to offer.

I trust in the Universe that all responsible adults will take corrective action to heal any pain and/or insecurities that linger in their minds heart without inflicting their troubles onto their child or children unconsciously or innocently, and for that matter, upon anyone else that they may come to associate. Please, it’s time to awaken and become AWARE. I strongly encourage you to understand that you’re a responsible adult whom is raising a child or children, before they independently become exposed to the society at large.

Let’s begin with what is the difference between discipline and punishment?

Discipline; is about educating the child or children about their wrongdoing, in a manner that teaches the child or children constructive methods by discussing better practices and respectfully working toward corrective measures to implement solutions. This guides the child/ren by understand their wrongdoings.

Punishment; is about hurting the child’s emotions by making the child suffer with verbal and/or physical abuse for their wrongdoing e.g. blaming and shaming, sending them to their room (without dessert?), confiscating their favourite toy/device/item, nagging them that they should have known better or what’s wrong with you?, grabbing the child and yanking them toward you, pushing them, smacking their hand or bottom, interrupting your child’s explanation, labelling your child as clumsy, naughty or messy and because you’re not listening we are going home, etc. This upsets the child/ren for their wrongdoings.

What are the health benefits when you?

Discipline; *build positive relationship and trust between adult and child/children, *respect each other through assertive behaviour/attitude, *cooperative partnership building by discussing concerns with a firm pleasant voice, *calm commending behaviour, *sociable family dynamic, *assertive/mutual directives, *good attitude and behaviour development, *positive thinking traits, *leadership like qualities, *secure family relationship, *positive behaviour/attitude in social settings.

Punishment; *build negative relationship and resentment between adult and child/children, *disrespect each other through aggressive/submissive behaviour/attitude, *uncooperative partnership building by disputing issues with loud unpleasant voice, *temperamental controlling behaviour, *avoidant family dynamic, *superior/inferior directives, *bad attitude and behaviour development, *negative thinking traits, *boss like qualities, *insecure family relationship, *negative behaviour/attitude in social settings.

It’s no surprise to me anymore how most people become EXPERTS at discussing ‘Parenting children’ and thereafter demonstrate the complete opposite of what they have said, how sad and contradicting, I’m heartbroken. That leaves me to say: EASIER SAID THAN DONE! Besides, you have indirectly validated my studies and research to be proven true and that is- maternal/paternal instinct alone is not enough to NURTURE a child or children.

Good luck,

 

Ersen

Children’s Play Equipment/Sports Activities

Before I start writing about this month’s topic, ‘Children’s Play Equipment/Sports Activities’ plus general health benefits (physical health and mental development), I’d like to (first and foremost) express my appreciation and gratitude to the proprietors of Chipmunks Caroline Springs for welcoming me [as an author] to showcase and exhibit my first children’s book with important information for parents, and to demonstrate my parenting practice (when and where applicable) in and around the play centre, at each visit. I am delighted and thankful for the opportunity presented.

I would like to thank all responsible adults (parents, guardians, carers and the alike) who have shown their support on my research about ‘child development and behaviour’ which includes information on becoming a constructive parent. This support enables me to continue with my line of work to further delve into my research by providing the finest ‘in-depth’ information for children and for parents. Why? Because, I have decrypted information about parenthood and I have learnt something spectacular about raising children and the information is provide in my children’s books for all families, no matter the race, religion, colour or creed. Raising children is UNIVERSAL.

Furthermore, I have taken the liberty to conduct visual observations which validates and adds value to my research and regardless of the partial knowledge parents have raising their child/children; I know they’re trying their best to engage with their child/children, all the while trying to entertain themselves. I also agree to the boundaries that parent’s place that must be adhered to by children, but…..there is a way of communicating without the drama children can express. Besides, there is much to learn about parenting/raising children/child development and behaviour than maternal/paternal instincts alone. Nevertheless, it gives me great pleasure and joy to see families connecting and committing to do their best with the knowledge they have at the time they’re raising their child/children.

Ok, let’s begin. Hello and welcome to this month’s news article on ‘Children’s Play Equipment/Sports Activities’ plus general health benefits (physical health and mental development).

All responsible adults should acknowledge and comprehend when children play or participate in any activity or play on equipment; they are exercising their mind and body by expressing their emotions and crafting their ability through their achievements (regardless of age) just as adults would when they participate in an activity. I also would like all responsible adults to further understand that children have the energy of an athlete; children can and will play non-stop until they are ready to stop. So, in this case, I advise parents to look for key cues on when to stop your child/children from playing. Who likes to be interrupted, yet alone dragged away from their activity?

Children, who play sports or play equipment whether indoors or outdoors, develop striking general health benefits such as: flexibility, bone and muscle strength, body balance, confidence, eye-hand coordination, visual and mental focus, mental concentration, cardio-vascular workout, sensory development and understanding, social interaction and cooperation, family connection and communication, improved sleep patterns and appetite and most importantly, brain activity to problem solve.

I’m aware raising children is a sensitive and personal topic to responsible adults, which could offend your belief and knowledge about parenting. I assure you all that this is not my intention. I repeat over and again, I am here to raise awareness and I chose not to interrupt family time to state mistakes. As much as children need guidance and training from their parents, I would like to provide the training and education to parents who are interested in child development and behaviour through constructive parenting.

I’m going to end this article with, although you’re doing right by maternal/paternal instincts, you could actually be causing more damage than good without being aware to incorporate mental health and emotional well being practices.

My eternal blessings to you all,

 

Ersen

Respecting the importance of parenting and teamwork between responsible adults

I chose this topic of high importance when raising children because, no matter what religion, race, colour or creed, we all have a character type that is embedded within us all; behaviours in our personality and methods that is strongly intertwined to our habits, that which has been conditioned by our responsible adults when we were children and them with theirs, etc. As a matter of fact, people most often display about 3 to 5 types of personalities, and these are when a person is alone, with their family and/or relatives, around their close knit friends or social circle, among the general public and at work with colleagues. Mind you, there are other contributing factors that change the dynamic of a person’s personality toward another, and the common attribute that change the dynamic of a person’s personality would be whether you like or dislike a person.

Here is an example: psychologically, we treat a person who we like with care, dignity, respect, kindness, humour and jokes, etc, because we feel comfortable around in their presence knowing they make us feel good about ourselves and they accept who we are as an individual and vice versa. Now, how do we treat a person we dislike who is causing us to feel bitter, annoyed, irritated because they are troubled with problems? I thought so.

We all can agree that there are many ‘Parenting Style’ stereotypes that a responsible adult (parents, guardians, carers and the alike) could possess and to that extent, display a style type when parenting/caring for a child or children. Not one parenting style will suit all responsible adults and not all parenting styles will suit a responsible adult. Furthermore, we can agree that there is always a point in time where responsible adults could clash due to their differences in parenting style and character type (other contributing factors may apply), whether it be about their child’s education, discipline and/or recreation inc. the type of friends they should play together with that are deemed important in a family dynamic. Responsible adults must be aware when this happens, as to not to create a fuss in front of the child or children and it is important for responsible adults to discuss any matters of concern in such a manner that it equally supports and respects all members of the family. Children are watching and/or listening just as adults would when they hear fuss and ado.

What does all this information mean? By supporting each other, your child or children learn to respect both responsible adults equally therefore, will respect their siblings without taking sides and better yet, will feel better about themselves and about their family. We all know children become upset/distressed when responsible adults cause such commotion and consequently, either they become angry or they become sad, thus resulting further like: stomping their feet pacing around the house or tucked away hidden somewhere and crying (other sign of emotional distress can be expressed). Furthermore, a child or children could now mainly seek permission from the dominant parent, even when both responsible adults are present around the child or children (circumstance slightly differ between single parents), and the subservient parent will eventually be discouraged from parenting knowing that the dominant partner will interfere when interacting with their child or children, thus causing further debates, disagreements, conflicts, arguments between the two responsible adults. A child or children love their responsible adult/s but the above mentioned is overwhelming for a child or children leaving them disappointed, confused and taking sides. I totally understand because I lived through many experiences.

Here is a bonus tip: Children live in their own world which is real to them but fun and play to adults. My advice is to guide a child or children to understand, and avoid the guilt trip method.

My best regards,

Ersen

How well do you know your child or children?

Hello to you all,

Although I’m divorced, I continually see my children whenever possible, e.g. every day after school, every second weekend, during their school holidays and when applicable, on public holidays. Both of my children are now teenagers, and I have cared for them since the time of their birth [alongside their mother before my divorce] and regardless of life circumstances, I’ll continue to care for my children in an age appropriate manner until they’re young adults, thereafter and once again, I will continue to care for my children in an age appropriate manner.

I too encountered difficulties as a parent in my early years: here is an example dating back to 2013-2014. My first born and I were out shopping for groceries one day after school and we came across a stand full of cookies with different flavours-Choc chip, Smartie, Mars bar, Crunchie, Milky Way, Strawberry lolly at a promotional price. I asked my daughter if she’d like a cookie for a snack. She chose Choc chip. Upon doing so, I evaluated what she’d selected and ignored her personal choice altogether without thinking, unintentionally judging her preference. I asked her to place it back and choose a packet of Milky Way cookies. She was reluctant to return her favourite and asked “Why?” I simply replied, “It’ll taste better”. Hesitant to return the packet of Choc chip cookies, she continued to protest “But I like this one”. Not being aware of how selfish I was, I thought I was being a good parent and as a father, I wanted the very best for my daughter and in this case; the best flavoured cookies on the stand (according to me). I also considered Milky Way cookies light and fluffy, and it wouldn’t ruin her appetite before dinner. Again, I asked her to return the packet of Choc chip cookies and select the packet of Milky Way cookies with a convincing speech “I promise you once you bite into the cookie, there will be a party in your mouth that is full of flavour”. After a moment of thought, she returned her favourite back on the stand and took what I recommended, or more like what I dictated. We got home and she tried the cookie, thereafter became upset. Long story short, she didn’t like the Mars bar cookie because it was soft, sticky and chewy, and that it wasn’t crunchy. I automatically respected my daughters feedback without hesitation and apologised. I didn’t complain nor was I flustered about driving back to the supermarket to purchase my daughters favourite cookies. 

The moral of the story is that no matter how good of a responsible adult (parent, guardian, carer and all the alike) I may have thought out to believe I was, I never stood to ask why she liked the Choc chip cookies in the first place. I was selfish to judge her preferred snack by evaluating the product and against my better judgement, I failed. All-in-all, I made my daughter doubt herself about what she likes. Since then, I’ve learned a valuable lesson about parenting, so I decided to improve my methods with no complaints or hesitations with the information available then. I implemented and innovated what I had learned and became better. I now commend my children for trying before directing my children to the available options. 

I understand that it is not about me as a parent knowing what is best for my child or children without asking questions in an age appropriate manner to better know how they feel about what they want or need and according to our circumstance or situation. Furthermore, I can take a corrective course of action or approach to fullfil their needs or wants (if applicable and suitable) based on the information collected. This assures me that I have understood my child better as they share and express their feelings and of mine. Learning to be flexible (within set boundaries) allows my children to understand that there are available options without causing any drama. 

I too was a child being raised by parents who believed they knew what was best for me, without asking many questions, at all times, even if I had protested. When I became a responsible adult, I had the opportunity to raise my children better than my parents did me. I sought out information on various other subjects and incorporated methods/techniques to find best practices. I understood not to take anything too personal, otherwise, my children will learn to be emotional and become attached to their feelings rather than their thoughts, as I was when I was being raised by my parents.

Thankfully, no matter what I have encountered in my life, I made a change to learn about child development, behaviours and logical reasoning and my children are more content than they are despondent. I’m glad that they try to lean toward their rational side than their emotional side, but that’s not to say that they cannot express their emotions, it just means that there is very little drama when issues arise.

Now that my children are teenagers, they conduct themselves better by practicing to regulate their emotions and by assessing their situation assertively. This allows my children to assert themselves by taking a corrective course of action through information collected. According to my children, I know them well enough that they share and confide in me by knowing that I listen to their words as they express their feelings; all without judgement at picking what they should have done or said. The best part about my parenting skill, is that I get to share my thoughts with my children’s discussion; without the drama of my children saying “You don’t understand, dad” or worse, being the last to know because they don’t trust me enough to share or confide in me.

I chose to be a leader of my family, not a boss!

Thank you

 

Ersen

What does it mean to be a responsible adult?

Hello to you all,

There are many topics about child development and behaviours that I can discuss when it comes to raising children, e.g. how to discuss your family dynamics to children when out in public, at a family function or simply living it up in the privacy of your own home, and this month’s topic I choose to share is ‘what does it mean to be a responsible adult?

Firstly, I would like to state that I do not doubt anyone’s ability to nurture a child because I believe in maternal/paternal instincts, but that is not enough to nurture a child/ren. It is no surprise that we all can care for a child in some shape or form and there are many factors to consider when caring for a child. These could be: how involved you become when caring, the level of interest you express when caring, your approach to circumstances or situations when caring, observations you conduct when caring, your personal and professional views about caring, your common sense about caring, what you discuss when caring, what you watch when caring, etc, BUT the true essence and dynamics are hidden in an individual’s perspective on tolerance level, attention and dedication. What does it mean to be a responsible adult? It means to be selfless by devoting your time and effort to assist and nurture your child constantly and continuously until your child is competent and capable. It is about your child and not about you.

Secondly, why do most people treat friends better than their own family? Why is the family dynamic so personal when raising children? Why do most responsible adults become offended, agitated or aggravated by their very own child/ren whom they raise?

I have been improving my parenting skill to further increase my knowledge and technique/method that continues to work over and over again. Parenting should not be a chore because it is a practice. It is a beautiful practice to reflect, revise and when applicable, improve your parenting skill. Through my goodwill and leadership skill that I envelope and encompass, I implore you to be careful of what you watch at home, listen to in the car, act out in front of others so much so that it does not leave you scratching your head wondering where your child picks up such habits or behaviours. Remember, I am simply improving your parenting technique the way you are without asking you to change who you are already.

My kindest regards,

 

Ersen

Quality Time

Welcome to my news article on Quality Time and what it means for children.

We can all agree that it’s best to start early, whilst the child is young, because as they grow older, bonding with your child can be difficult and in some cases, not at all. If it’s not too late, there is a solution to every problem, even if it seems far out of reach.

Children enjoy participating in activities where they feel empowered by the responsible adult/s (parents, guardians, carers and all the alike) to develop their skill set, gain experience, acknowledge and comprehend the task at hand and to happily express their achievements. This connection is the bond that children seek and need from their responsible adult at any given time because children are very inquisitive; asking questions and willing to learn as much as they can but as they grow older, their interests change, nevertheless, the family dynamic bond continues to strengthen. 

Although most responsible adults are very busy with work, family errands, home duties and/or personal responsibilities, there is little time to interact with their child or children whilst trying to secure a much needed ME TIME; which is equally important to anyone’s wellbeing, as the mind and body require time out; rest to recuperate. It is also understandable why responsible adults like to accomplish any given chores in the shortest time possible and trying to complete the task/chore/errand yourself could be frustrating and feel under appreciated.

Spending quality time with children by being present within their sight-not yours, is also equally important. So what is quality time for a child? Quality time for a child is about how responsible adults contribute to interact with a child’s activity or to delegate light duties (whilst under supervision: depending on age, competency and task) and under constructive guidance whether indoors or outdoors. This committed relationship is what children seek because it allows children to express themselves, it enables the child to increase their skill set, allows children to understand family values and expand their personal development boundary, better yet, they positively connect with members of the family. 

For an adult, child’s play is nothing more than leisure; all fun and games, but for a child, it’s their entire world where they learn to coordinate, experiment, explore, create, challenge, express, and more, much more. Each time you spend a minimum of 15 minutes with your child, your child will develop a greater understanding about ‘family dynamics’, thus which is important for every member in the household; no one is excluded.

Kindly understand that there is a fine line between obligation and participation. I implore you to understand the importance of both and most importantly, please find the time to nurture yourself first, so you can nurture your child better.

My kind regards,

 

Ersen

In the meantime…

Hello to you all,

I realise I’ve missed out on posting an article in May and for reasons that I can explain about developing my business during its first few years, e.g. learning to market and advertise my first children’s book to gain exposure and generate sales. I’ve also been busy with Samaritan work and have taken the liberty to post a few photos.

‘I do what I can, where I can and however much I can in my time of circumstance’. Most importantly, an act of a Samaritan knows where to be selfless and when to be selfish; I too need rest and retreat. I also accept and acknowledge that not everyone is comfortable with reasonable care (help, assist, aid). I can respectfully offer reasonable care to who, when and how I can, thereafter; it is totally up to you whether to accept or reject my proposal without expectations and vice versa. A Universal law about duality.

We must all remember what we are capable of and competent of when it comes to parenting; not everyone is what they believe they are until they personally develop and learn the necessary to achieve positive results e.g. when children are a little too loud during play, it’s pointless and most certainly contradicting for a responsible adult to raise their voice by saying ‘It’s too loud or quieten down or use your inside voice or stop shouting’, this directive is definitely confusing a child. Please be advised and aware.

I thought of this quote and I hope it’s not taken: Either walk forward with acts of love in your life or the absence of love will falter behind your walk of life- E.B

My Gift To You

Hello to you all,

As a dedicated father and a devoted author, I would like to gift you with three (3) simple parenting tips absolutely free, before you decide to purchase my children’s book. Only I know how much helpful information is held in my book that is beneficial and valuable for children and for responsible adults (parents, guardians, carers and the alike); but you don’t know that. This is why I am gifting you with three (3) simple parenting tips for you to experience with a child or children you care for. The ‘Commend and Direct’ method is noble and dignified which will potentially enhance your parenting skill to the next level, awakening your awareness as you progress positively, demonstrating good role modelling techniques. 

By giving away three (3) simple parenting tips to assist with your journey as a responsible adult to interact with children harmoniously, is something worth experiencing rather than me (as the author) trying to market and advertise my book. These three (3) simple parenting tips are words that can be found in dictionaries across the world and is written in all languages available. Without deep extensive research and experimenting to develop, how would we come to understand and innovate?

The amount of research conducted and experimenting to develop best practices is where you and I differ. I studied and worked hard to simplify my parenting technique, and it worked! Matter of fact, I tested my parenting methods on other children and it worked, and on more children and it worked again. Through research conducted, I came across valuable information that I used personally to develop my parenting skill and this information awakened me to the truth about child development and behaviour. The sad reality is that not many people know about it. Ask yourself, why have so many people become personal and sensitive?

Anyway, back to the three (3) for free. Please practice using the following three (3) parenting tips constantly everyday in order and as followed. Remember the ‘Commend and Direct’ method is noble and dignified to achieve better results when communicating with or interacting with your child/children. #1 is to Respond, #2 is to Relate, #3 is to Respect. These are the first three (3) parenting tips from the many that I have to offer that is presented to you absolutely FREE!

I trust in the Universe that I am delivering this message to good hands.

Enjoy.